Dating while in college has its pros and cons.....
Dating can have a negative affect or a positive affect....
Dating can be positive when you and the person you are in the relationship with are in the same school, and share some of the same classes. In that case you can help each other with homework, share ideas, facts, etc. Some cases students usually meet each other in college, maybe from high
Another situation is a couple who have been together for a while and one goes to another college that may be farther away or even in a different state , and usually in this example the female is the one who feels like she is torn apart , she can't go on without him or he can't move on without her. Then that's where they begin to loose focus especially when there in school....the stop paying attention, their minds begin the wander like ...I haven't heard from my loved one....their minds begin to go somewhere else.
When you have a situation where you and your loved one is in the same college and he or she really truly cares about you....then in that case you have someone who can help you stay focused and vice versa.
Now another situation is where you have a couple in a relationship and there is domestic violence...he may be beating her, she may be beating him, there may be verbal abuse. By the time he or she comes to school they may feel like you know ..... I don't have the energy to go to school today I'm just going to cut school to just get away, I just want to get away. If I tell someone what is going on they won't understand. Then next thing you know you start to see their attendance drop....and they miss one class then one class turns into 3 classes 3 turn into 4 and then you don't see them again....
Another situation is...you and your boy friend or girl friend may be working 2 jobs and going to school and either he or she isn't or can't make an effort or show an effort to come see you or spend time with you. You may feel a certain way and you loose all focus because you may feel like she loves you you love her and you have to do whatever you have to just to see them. If that means missing a few homework assignments and you say "Oh I'll catch up don't worry I just want to see you. I don't care about the homework, all I care about is you. "Oh baby , I love you I would do anything just to see you right now''.....Then next thing you know......you missing homework assignments missing class...then the semester is over, and you wondering why you failed?!!!
If you have a good solid relationship and the person is encouraging you, then you have a good thing going..especially without all the drama, but if you are in a unhealthy relationship....GET OUT AS FAST AS YOU CAN ...you don't need to be with anyone that doesn't want you to get your education and is not encouraging. You need to let them go, and move on. Stay focused!
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